Then God said, “Let Us make mankind in Our image, according to Our likeness; and let them rule over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the sky and over the livestock and over all the earth, and over every crawling thing that crawls on the earth.” So God created man in His own image, in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them. (Genesis 1:26-27 NASB20)

From the creation account above, I do believe that there was a natural unity and harmony between the man and the woman. And there in the garden, we can see from God’s word that man was a vegetarian and ate from the fruit trees and vegetables as well. Also, we can see that there was no fear between man and the animals. But most of all, it was that beautiful relationship that man had with God. For Adam and Eve were not yet tainted by the evil desires of sin.

Now for starters, I would like to be clear and say that both the man and the woman are created in God’s image as quoted above. So, this shows that both the man and the woman are equal in nature. For: “There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is no male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus.” (Galatians 3:28). However, there are differences between our God given roles that he bestowed upon us. For in nature itself, we can see that the males are generally larger and stronger than the females. This would naturally place the males in a place of dominance and rule over the females. But again, this is not inferring that one is better than the other.

To the woman he said, “I will greatly increase your labor pains; with pain you will give birth to children. You will want to control your husband, but he will dominate you.” (Genesis 3:16 NET)

According to that passage above, we see that the woman’s desire is now to control her husband. We can see this same wording in chapter 4 of Genesis where we read: “Then the LORD said to Cain, "Why are you angry, and why is your expression downcast? Is it not true that if you do what is right, you will be fine? But if you do not do what is right, sin is crouching at the door. It desires to dominate you, but you must subdue it.” (Genesis 4:6-7 NET) So we can see from these two passages that there is going to be a wrong desire to have ones will and way over another?

Therefore, I believe this is not about a sexual desire that a woman has for husband. But instead, it’s her desire to control and dominate her husband, just as sin wants to dominate control us. Because let’s remember that God told Adam and Eve to be “fruitful and multiply” before the fall. So, it’s reasonable to assume that Eve already had a natural sexual desire toward Adam. Therefore, because of the fall, the woman may challenge the man’s rightful place of headship over her. However, God’s word clearly says: “Let a woman learn quietly with all submissiveness. I do not permit a woman to teach or to exercise authority over a man; rather, she is to remain quiet. For Adam was formed first, then Eve; and Adam was not deceived, but the woman was deceived and became a transgressor.” (1 Timothy 2:11-14 ESV)

So, let’s be diligent to stand on the truth of God’s Word. For we shouldn’t try to water it down with our own theology or feelings. Because there seems to be this urge to twist or bend scripture in such a way that it would be appealing to all. (2 Peter 3:15-16) And why is this? Could it be because we’re so afraid of offending others? And It’s no wonder why we have such disorder in the church today as well as in our homes? It’s time we stand up for the truth of God’s Word and take our rightful places in life. This should be true for both the man and the woman and their children as well. Because for us to do otherwise would be a disobedience to God’s divine commandment. Amen.

Below are a few passages concerning the roles of the man and woman:

• But I want you to understand that Christ is the head of every man, and the man is the head of a woman, and God is the head of Christ. (1 Corinthians 11:3 NASB20)
• Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. (Ephesians 5:22-24 NIV)
• A woman must quietly receive instruction with entire submissiveness. But I do not allow a woman to teach or to exercise authority over a man, but to remain quiet. For it was Adam who was first created, and then Eve. And it was not Adam who was deceived, but the woman was deceived and became a wrongdoer. (1 Timothy 2:11-14 NASB20)
• Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives, when they observe your chaste conduct accompanied by fear. Do not let your adornment be merely outward - arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel - rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God. For in this manner, in former times, the holy women who trusted in God also adorned themselves, being submissive to their own husbands, as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord, whose daughters you are if you do good and are not afraid with any terror. (1 Peter 3:1-6 NKJV)
• Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered. (1 Peter 3:7 NKJV)

Commentary References:

• If man had not sinned, he would always have ruled with wisdom and love; and, if the woman had not sinned, she would always have obeyed with humility and meekness; and then the dominion would have been no grievance: but our own sin and folly make our yoke heavy. If Eve had not eaten forbidden fruit herself, and tempted her husband to eat it, she would never have complained of her subjection; therefore it ought never to be complained of, though harsh; but sin must be complained of, that made it so. Those wives who not only despise and disobey their husbands, but domineer over them, do not consider that they not only violate a divine law, but thwart a divine sentence. By Matthew Henry, Who is Matthew Henry? | Matthew Henry | Learn to Pray the Bible
• “Your desire shall be for your husband.” Now let’s talk about the word “desire.” What does it mean? It’s an interesting word; it comes from an Arabic root and I have continued to survey this passage because it’s been a passage of some controversy. But it is of Arabic root meaning to seek control. Literally it could read, “You shall seek control over your husband...you will desire to exert your will,” that is a sign of the curse, “you will desire to take charge, to be in control, to master.” And that desire shows up in various women in various ways. In some of them it’s a quiet, silent desire that smolders, with others it is a shouting desire that isn’t much of a secret to anybody. And the more godless women are, very often the more hostile they are toward men. Sometimes that hostility takes the attitude of coldness, indifference, apathy. Because she can’t achieve what she wants, she eventually becomes totally indifferent and apathetic toward the man. But there is this desire, this seeking to have one’s own way, to get control. That’s why there have been through history always Feminist Movements, always. Even in the time of the Apostle Paul. I read some fascinating things about the time of the Apostle Paul. There was a liberation of women movement going on in the world of the Apostle Paul. Women were shaving their heads and going around bare chested with spears in their hands and trying to prove that they can do everything men did. There has always been that kind of movement in history because it’s reflective of this curse. The man has to deal with the fact that his wife wants to control him. By John Macarthur, Grace to You (gty.org)
• Your desire shall be for your husband, and he shall rule over you: The idea is to contrast the woman’s desire and the husband’s rule over her. This speaks of an inherent challenge in embracing the husband’s role as leader of the home and family. This same word for desire is used in Genesis 4:7 of the desire of sin to master over Cain. Because of the curse, Eve would have to fight a desire to master her husband, a desire that works against God’s ordained order for the home. The principle of Adam’s headship as a husband was established before the fall (see Genesis 2:18 and 2:22). Now the curse on Eve makes it much harder for her to submit and flow with God’s institution of male headship in the home. By David Guzik, Enduring Word - Free Bible Commentary from Pastor David Guzik

“But take heed to your spirit, and do not forsake the wife of your youth. “But if you hate her and send her away,” says the Lord God of Israel, “ungodliness will obscure your thinking,” says the Lord Almighty. “So take heed to your spirit, that you do not forsake her.” (Malachi 2:15-16 OSB)

It is obvious from this scripture above that God hates divorce. We can see this to be true as well in Matthew’s gospel which reads: “And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marries her which is put away doth commit adultery.” (Matthew 19:9) So, if a man puts away his faithful wife, it would not only show a lack of honor for her, but would put her in danger of committing adultery as well. Peter said to those of us who are husbands: “Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honor unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.” (1 Peter 3:7) So, just because the man has a God given authority over his wife does not mean that she is to be looked down upon or to be treated as inferior.

Now in Proverbs, it says: “An excellent wife, who can find her? For her worth is far above jewels.” (Proverbs 31:10 NASB20). Yes, a fine wife is priceless and worth much. We see this also to be true where we read: “A man who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the LORD.” (Proverbs 18:22 CSB) So, a woman is to be honored and loved by her husband. For she is a person that is precious and is just as important in the eyes of God as any man. Amen.

• Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself up for it; ... Even so ought husbands also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his own wife loveth himself: (Ephesians 5:25, 28 ASV)
• So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: (Ephesians 5:28-29 KJV)

But if anyone does not provide for his own family, especially for his own household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever. (1 Timothy 5:8 CSB)

We already read earlier that the man is to be the head over his wife and children. Therefore, they must be in subjection unto him in all things. So then, a man should also be the main provider for his household as well according to that passage above. For he must do all he can to make sure there is food on the table, a shelter over their heads and clothing on their backs. Of course, the wife plays an important part in this as well. However, the man must make sure that these things for his family are met. In fact, for him to neglect these things would only cause him to be worse than an unbeliever according to what was said above. And let’s also remember that Gods word condemns laziness and anyone who is a slacker. For, “The one who is slack in his work is a brother to one who destroys.” (Proverbs 18:9 NET)

Now, I don’t believe that God is condemning those men who are struggling to make ends meet. For things happen that are outside of their control. But that being said, God will help meet their needs if they trust and rely on Him. So, let us men do our best to love our wives according to scripture and teach are children truth. This we must do without being harsh or provoking them to anger. For God’s word says: “Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.” (Ephesians 6:4 ESV)

Of course, we must not overlook the other roles that should be done by men. This would include their involvement in the military as well as the police force. These roles should only be done by qualified men who are called to defend both their country and community. I say this because in the bible we read that all military actions were performed by only men. For we read: “Take a census of all the congregation of the people of Israel, by clans, by fathers' houses, according to the number of names, every male, head by head. From twenty years old and upward, all in Israel who are able to go to war, you and Aaron shall list them, company by company. ... So all those listed of the people of Israel, by their fathers’ houses, from twenty years old and upward, every man able to go to war in Israel - all those listed were 603,550.” (Numbers 1:2-3, 45-46 ESV)

• Then the officers shall speak to the people, saying, ‘Is there any man who has built a new house and has not dedicated it? Let him go back to his house, lest he die in the battle and another man dedicate it. And is there any man who has planted a vineyard and has not enjoyed its fruit? Let him go back to his house, lest he die in the battle and another man enjoy its fruit. And is there any man who has betrothed a wife and has not taken her? Let him go back to his house, lest he die in the battle and another man take her.’ And the officers shall speak further to the people, and say, ‘Is there any man who is fearful and fainthearted? Let him go back to his house, lest he make the heart of his fellows melt like his own.’” (Deuteronomy 20:5-8 ESV)

Older women likewise are to exhibit behavior fitting for those who are holy, not slandering, not slaves to excessive drinking, but teaching what is good. In this way they will train the younger women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be self-controlled, pure, fulfilling their duties at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands, so that the message of God may not be discredited. (Titus 2:3-5 NET)

According to the scripture above, older women should be passing on to the younger women the important role of being keepers of the home. However, we see the opposite happening in our generation today. For young women are being shipped off to pursue a degree in some collage. Then, when these same women do marry and become mothers, they end up sending their young children off to some daycare so that they can continue working their career jobs. All this is not consistent with God’s word. For they should they be at home raising and instilling Godly values to their young children instead of letting someone else teach them who know what? Even the military as well as the police force has opened its doors to woman which goes against nature itself. For woman are to bring life into this world, not to take it out.

Unfortunately, this is all part of the fall of mankind. For there are those women who feel they need to prove that they are equal to men within the workforce. But the truth of it is, a woman’s role in the home is more vital and important that anything she can pursue outside it. For she has the God given role to: “Train a child in the way that he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it.” (Proverbs 22:6 NET) So ladies, what job can be more important than that? Therefore, fulfill your role as a woman which is a blessing from God.

Now, I don’t believe that being “keepers at home” means that a mother must only stay within the confines of their home. For there are family own businesses which they help run. This also would be a great way for their children to get involved, teaching them from a very early age how to be fruitful and productive in life. And there are also those women who choose to be single or have not married yet. These same women can get involved in jobs within their community such as working in nursing home or helping out in some community center. But again, this would all depend on their situation at home. For if a mother or single woman is needed to stay at home, they should forsake whatever job their doing and attended to their family first.

(Please note: Back in the day, children were included within the work force. This groomed them to be productive citizens who will become fruitful in our society. However, our corrupt government system has changed all that. For they think they know better than God when it came down to raising children)

Now, that all being said, I do realize that our corrupt system here in America has made it hard for couples to make it financially with only one person working outside of the home. Unfortunately, we have brought this upon ourselves because of greed. A get rich and let’s retire early mentality can bring a family and nation to ruin. However, as said before, a woman’s first priority is always to be there for her children as well as for her husband. This is not a commandment from me but from God himself as was quoted above in Titus 2:3-5.

Let a woman learn quietly with all submissiveness. I do not permit a woman to teach or to exercise authority over a man; rather, she is to remain quiet. For Adam was formed first, then Eve; and Adam was not deceived, but the woman was deceived and became a transgressor. (1 Timothy 2:11-14 ESV)

It is very clear, both in the Old Testament as well as the New, that the leadership positions in the church are to be held only by men. For this is true as quoted above and also where we read: “Let your women be silent in the assemblies, for it is not permitted to them to speak; but to be in subjection, as the law also says. But if they wish to learn anything, let them ask their own husbands at home; for it is a shame for a woman to speak in assembly.” (1 Corinthians 14:34-35 DBY)

Now, if we look at the Old Testament, we can see that all the priestly positions were only held by men, not woman. For we read: “Now take Aaron your brother, and his sons with him, from among the children of Israel, that he may minister to Me as priest, Aaron [and] Aaron's sons: Nadab, Abihu, Eleazar, and Ithamar.” (Exodus 28:1 NKJV) Likewise, if we look at the New Testament Church, we can see that all twelve of the apostles were men whom Jesus personally chose. So, if Jesus wanted to have women in leadership positions in the New Testament church, wouldn’t he at least have chosen one woman, perhaps maybe Mary Magdalen. But it is clear from Paul’s letters that no woman should take on any form of leadership position within the church assembly. This I believe would be true even if the group is made up of only women.

Now, I know that some of you may be thinking about Deborah, who was: “a prophetess, the wife of Lapidoth, she judged Israel at that time. And she dwelt under the palm tree of Deborah between Ramah and Bethel in mount Ephraim: and the children of Israel came up to her for judgment.” (Judges 4:4-5 KJV) So, while it is true that she was holding these two positions, this still wouldn’t qualify her to be a priest or a religious teacher. Prophets speak as God gives them utterance and Judges administer justice. But that doesn't give them license to take on roles which were not assigned to them. “For every high priest taken from among men is ordained for men in things pertaining to God, that he may offer both gifts and sacrifices for sins: Who can have compassion on the ignorant, and on them that are out of the way; for that he himself also is compassed with infirmity.” (Hebrews 5:1-2 KJV)

And let’s remember that even King Saul, who was an anointed King in Israel, got into trouble for taking on the duties of a Priest. “And Samuel said to Saul, Thou hast done foolishly: thou hast not kept the commandment of the LORD thy God, which he commanded thee: for now would the LORD have established thy kingdom upon Israel for ever. But now thy kingdom shall not continue: the LORD hath sought him a man after his own heart, and the LORD hath commanded him [to be] captain over his people, because thou hast not kept [that] which the LORD commanded thee.” (1 Samuel 13:13-14 KJV) So, even though Saul was King of Israel, he still had no authority to take on the role of a priest, thus he was removed from being the King.

Commentary Reference:

• Paul the apostle restricts women from serving as teaching and/or having spiritual authority over men. This precludes women from serving as pastors over men and women, which definitely includes preaching to them, teaching them publicly, and exercising spiritual authority over them.....Did Priscilla and her husband teach the gospel of Jesus Christ to Apollos? Yes, in their home they “explained to him the way of God more adequately” (Acts 18:26). Does the Bible ever say that Priscilla pastored a church or taught publicly or became the spiritual leader of a congregation of saints? No. As far as we know, Priscilla was not involved in ministry activity in contradiction to (1 Timothy 2:11–14). In Romans 16:1, Phoebe is called a “deacon” (or “servant”) in the church and is highly commended by Paul. But, as with Priscilla, there is nothing in Scripture to indicate that Phoebe was a pastor or a teacher of men or even of women in the church. “Able to teach” is given as a qualification for elders, but not for deacons (1 Timothy 3:1–13; Titus 1:6–9). The structure of 1 Timothy 2:11–14 makes the reason why women cannot be pastors perfectly clear. Verse 13 begins with “for,” giving the “cause” of Paulʼs statement in verses 11–12. Why should women not teach or have authority over men? Because “Adam was created first, then Eve. And Adam was not the one deceived; it was the woman who was deceived” (verses 13–14). God created Adam first and then created Eve to be a “helper” for Adam. The order of creation has universal application in the family (Ephesians 5:22–33) and in the church. Many women excel in gifts of hospitality, mercy, teaching, evangelism, and helps. Much of the ministry of the local church depends on women deacons. Women in the church are not restricted from public praying or prophesying (1 Corinthians 11:5), only from having spiritual teaching authority over men and women within the confines of a church. The Bible nowhere restricts women from exercising the gifts of the Holy Spirit (1 Corinthians 12). Women, just as much as men, are called to minister to others, to demonstrate the fruit of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22–23), and to proclaim the gospel to the lost (Matthew 28:18–20; Acts 1Y8; 1 Peter 3:15). God has ordained that only men are to serve in positions of spiritual teaching authority in the church...... Men are to set the example in spiritual leadership—in their lives and through their words. Women are to take a less authoritative role. Women are encouraged to teach younger women their roles in life (Titus 2:3–5). The Bible also does not restrict women from teaching children. The only activity women are restricted from is teaching or having spiritual authority over men. This precludes women from serving as pastors to men. This does not make women less important, by any means, but rather gives them a ministry focus more in agreement with Godʼs plan and His gifting of them. - Two Views on Women in Ministry, Revised by James R. Beck, ed. and Logos Bible Software. (Gotquestions.org)

That being all said, the scriptures do teach that women can take part within the church as prophets and deacons. For we can see this to be true where we read: “The deaconesses too must be serious, not gossips; they must be temperate and perfectly trustworthy.” (1 Timothy 3:11 Williams) We see this again were we read: “I commend to you our sister Phoebe, a deaconess of the church at Cen'chre-ae, that you may receive her in the Lord as befits the saints, and help her in whatever she may require from you, for she has been a helper of many and of myself as well.” (Romans 16:1-2 RSV) Now it must be understood that this word deacon (and Deaconesses) does not mean a church leader or teacher but one who serves in the church. For in Acts 6:3, Stephen was appointed as a deacon in the church to serve tables, but not to teach.

• 1 Timothy 3:11 = “the women,” that is, the deaconesses. For there is no reason that special rules should be laid down as to the wives of the deacons, and not also as to the wives of the bishops or overseers. Moreover, if the wives of the deacons were meant, there seems no reason for the omission of “their” (not in the Greek). Also the Greek for “even so” (the same as for “likewise,” 1Timothy 3:8, and “in like manner,” 1Timathy 2:9), denotes a transition to another class of persons. Further, there were doubtless deaconesses at Ephesus, such as Phoebe was at Cenchrea (Romans 16:1, “servant,” Greek, “deaconess”), - Naturally after specifying the qualifications of the deacon, Paul passes to those of the kindred office, the deaconess. Jamieson-Fausset-Brown Commentary
• And it shall come to pass in the last days, saith God, I will pour out of my Spirit upon all flesh: and your sons and your daughters shall prophesy, and your young men shall see visions, and your old men shall dream dreams: And on my servants and on my handmaidens I will pour out in those days of my Spirit; and they shall prophesy: (Acts 2:17-18 KJV)

Below is the different bible versions used in this article. This I did in to help you in your study of God’s word. Therefore, I encourage you to: “Study to show thyself approved to God, a workman that needeth not to be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth.” (2 Timothy 2:15 WEB)

• KJV = The Authorized Version or King James Version (KJV), 1611, 1769. Outside of the United Kingdom, the KJV is in the public domain. Within the United Kingdom, the rights to the KJV are vested in the Crown.
• ESV = The Holy Bible, English Standard Version copyright © 2001, 2007, 2011, 2016 by Crossway Books and Bibles, a Publishing Ministry of Good News Publishers. Used by permission. All rights reserved.
• CSB = Christian Standard Bible®, Copyright © 2017, 2020 by Holman Bible Publishers.
• NET = The NET Bible®, New English Translation Copyright © 1996 By Biblical Studies Press, L.L.C. NET Bible® is a registered trademark The NET Bible® Logo, Service Mark Copyright © 1997 by Biblical Studies Press, L.L.C. All rights reserved.
• NKJV = Scripture taken from the New King James Version. Copyright © 1982 by Thomas Nelson. Used by permission. All rights reserved.
• ASV = New American Standard Bible Copyright © 1960, 1962, 1963, 1968, 1971, 1972, 1973, 1975, 1977, 1995 by The Lockman Foundation, La Habra, Calif. All rights reserved.
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• DBY = In 1867, John Nelson Darby translated the New Testament from Greek into English. Further revisions were done in 1872 and 1884. Darby’s work was first published as The Holy Scriptures: A New Translation from the Original Languages by J. N. Darby. After Darby’s death in 1882, some of his students worked together to produce the complete Darby Bible based on the Masoretic Hebrew text, Darby’s German (Elberfelder), and the French (Pau) translations. In 1890, the first complete Darby Bible was published in English. This translation of the Bible is in the public domain.
• WEB = The Webster Bible was translated by Noah Webster in 1833 in order to bring the language of the bible up to date. This version of the Bible is in the public domain.
• RSV = The Holy Bible: Revised Standard Version containing the Old and New Testaments, translated from the original tongues: being the version set forth A.D. 1611, revised A.D. 1881-1885 and A.D. 1901: compared with the most ancient authorities and revised A.D. 1946-52. — 2nd ed. of New Testament A.D. 1971. There should be enough in the rest of the description to identify the text.
• NIV = THE HOLY BIBLE, NEW INTERNATIONAL VERSION®, NIV® Copyright © 1973, 1978, 1984, 2011 by Biblica, Inc.® Used by Permission of Biblica, Inc.® All rights reserved worldwide.
• Williams = Williams New Testament. Published in 1937; public domai
• OSB = The Orthodox Study Bible. Copyright © 2008 by St. Athanasius of Orthodox Theology. 

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To the reader: I do realize that this article may be uncomfortable for some of my brothers and sisters in Christ. So, if you’re one who limits yourself to what goes on in the marriage bed, you may not want to read on. However, if you’re willing to explore and see what freedom you have on the marriage bed, then read on. But for the rest of you who are mature in the faith, I hope this article encourages you to grow in the knowledge that you already have. So, wherever your faith may take you, please richly enjoy sexual intimacy with your spouse.

Those of us who are married should know that the sexual act between a man and a woman can bring about the most intense physical pleasure. And it’s for a good reason. For it’s one of those pleasures of life that brings forth new life into this world. So, this being the case, doesn’t it make sense that God would make it intensely pleasurable? And let’s remember what God’s word says in Hebrews 13:4, “Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled” which means marriage is good for everyone and that sexual intimacy is not to be viewed as dirty, defiling or unholy. And let’s also remember that we ourselves are here because our parents (whether they were married or not) had a sexual encounter as well. So, however we came into this world, let’s thank God we are here. For even if it was a bad situation, we can turn it into a blessing instead. I say this because I have seen it happen myself.

Now, I would like to point out that there is health factors involved in sex for both the man and woman. For science has shown that the man’s semen contains components that can helps enhance a woman’s mood. And not only that, but it can also help provide a safer pregnancy as well. Also, for the man that keeps sexually active, he can help fight-off prostate cancer (see below for these studies). So, “Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.” (1 Corinthians 7:5 ESV) Therefore, a couple should make an effort to keep sexually active, whether they're young newlyweds or well advanced in years.

Now, I have found that God’s word is like a puzzle. For it’s put together in such a way to cause us to study through it in order to piece things together. Therefore, we can rely on God’s word for everything that pertains to life, both past, present and even our future. Now, though my studies I’ve found that God has provided ways for us to function even in our infirmities. And one of those areas we may struggle in is the area of sex. Because let’s face it, there are some of you who may not always (or even cannot) have a normal sexual relationship. Therefore, I believe that God allows different sexual acts that are not only beneficial but are pleasurable as well. For God “giveth us richly all things to enjoy.” (1 Timothy 6:17).

So that being said, let’s not judge others for what they do on their marriage bed. For God know what we are dealing with and struggling with. Because: “All things are permitted, but not all things are of benefit. All things are permitted, but not all things build people up.” (1 Corinthians 10:23 NASB20) Therefore, those who limit themselves to the simple basics, should not condemn those who have more freedom. And those who have more freedom shouldn’t look down or push their freedom on others. For: “Let not the one who eats despise the one who abstains, and let not the one who abstains pass judgment on the one who eats, for God has welcomed him. Who are you to pass judgment on the servant of another? It is before his own master that he stands or falls. And he will be upheld, for the Lord is able to make him stand.” (Romans 14:3-4 ESV)

Now, we must understand that sexual issues are a result of the fall of mankind which occurred back in the garden of Eden. For before the fall, we read that God said in Genesis 1:31, “And God saw everything that he had made, and, behold, it was very good.” So, all was well in God’s creation. However, we read after the fall that God said to the woman in Genesis 3:16, “I will greatly multiply your sorrow in childbearing; in sorrow you shall bring forth children.” And we can see this not only in the hardships associated with the actual giving of birth, but in the grief of miscarriages, stillborn, and birth defects which took place down the road.

Now, from what we can read in Genesis, siblings did conceive children by having sex with each other. And because conception occurred within the family tree, there wouldn’t be miscarriages and other issues as we see today. But we know as time progressed, corruption started to take effect in our family gene pool. Therefore, during the time of Moses, God made it a law restricting all sibling marriages from that point on. This is because family defects could be easily passed on to the next generation if siblings continued to mate and have children within their family unit. However, because of this law that forbade siblings to continue to have offspring, another issued occurred. For the further away a couple is from each other’s family gene pool, the greater the chances are for a miscarriage to occur. It’s kind of like donating an organ. So, further the donor is from the recipient’s family, the greater the chance for their body to reject the organ.

That all being said, we can see why it’s important for a woman to expose herself to her husband’s semen before and even after conception. For studies have shown that a woman literally becomes one flesh with a man when she receives his semen into her body. This would be true however she receives it into her body. This is because she actually receives his DNA though the act of sex, thus becoming one with him (see the links below for these studies). It’s kind of like “you are what you eat.” Therefore, we see that the words of Jesus to be true when he said: “Have you not read that He who made them at the beginning ‘made them male and female,’ and said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’?” (Matthew 19:4-5) Yes, Jesus himself said that a woman becomes “one flesh” with her man.

Now, as mentioned earlier, we can see that a weekly sexual release for men can help maintain their prostate and reduce the risk of cancer. So, that is why it’s important for a woman to engage her husband in a weekly sexual act. But what about those men who don’t have a wife (or who have one that doesn’t care about his sexual needs) Well, there are other ways he could take care of that (see the link at the bottom of this article, “Use it or Lose it”) And again, this all goes back to what was said before. For we shouldn’t judge anyone for what goes on in the marriage bed or behind closed doors. Because if God’s word does not right out condemn it, we shouldn’t ether. Amen.

Now, there is something else which is good and even healthy, and that is circumcision. Yes, by removing the foreskin on the man’s sexual organ, it lessens the chances of infections and diseases for the man. Also, it makes sex more pleasant for the woman by eliminating the odors that can occur from being uncircumcised. Now, in the past when Adam was naked and not ashamed, this extra fold of skin was necessary to protect his most sensitive part. However, those days are now gone because of the fall of man. Thus, our clothing is now a suitable source of protection.

So, we can see why God would come up with the covenant of circumcision. For God promised Abraham that he would be the father of many nations by giving him a son through his barren wife Sarah. And we know for this promise to come about, Abraham would have to be sexually intimate with Sarah. And as said before, by removing the foreskin, sex becomes overall healthier and more pleasant, not only for the man, but for the woman as well. Therefore, I believe it was appropriate for God to make such a covenant. For again, it’s the sexual act that not only brings about the most intense pleasure but one that brings forth new life into this world as well. And yes, we do see Paul the apostle speaking negatively concerning circumcision at times. However, this was because some Christians were making it a law and a requirement for salvation. However, that’s not the case if one is doing it strictly for health reasons.

Below are a few passages from the Bible’s Song of Songs chapters. Contained within the pages of this book are descriptions of the human body as well as sexual intimacy through the use of metaphors. So, read through its pages asking God to bring out its rich meanings. And let’s remember that God’s word says we are “fearfully and wonderfully made,” and that he gave us “all things richly to enjoy.” So please do enjoy. Amen. (Psalm 139:14) (Timothy 6:17)

Bible references to the beauty of the human body:

• I am the rose of Sharon, and the lily of the valleys.” Here we have the wife who is describing herself as lily. “As the lily among thorns, so is my love among the daughters.” (Song of Songs 2:1-2)
• A garden enclosed is my sister, my spouse; a spring shut up, a fountain sealed. Thy plants are an orchard of pomegranates, with pleasant fruits; camphire, with spikenard, Spikenard and saffron; calamus and cinnamon, with all trees of frankincense; myrrh and aloes, with all the chief spices: A fountain of gardens, a well of living waters, and streams from Lebanon.” (Song of Songs 4:12-15)
• My beloved is white and ruddy, the chiefest among ten thousand. His head is as the most fine gold, his locks are bushy, and black as a raven. His eyes are as the eyes of doves by the rivers of waters, washed with milk, and fitly set. His cheeks are as a bed of spices, as sweet flowers: his lips like lilies, dropping sweet smelling myrrh. His hands are as gold rings set with the beryl: his belly is as bright ivory overlaid with sapphires. His legs are as pillars of marble, set upon sockets of fine gold: his countenance is as Lebanon, excellent as the cedars. His mouth is most sweet: yea, he is altogether lovely. This is my beloved, and this is my friend, O daughters of Jerusalem.” (Song of Songs 5:10-16)

Bible scriptures concerning the beauty of desiring and admiring your spouse:

• Drink waters out of your own cistern, and running waters out of your own well. Should your overflowing spring be scattered abroad as rivers of waters in the streets. Let them be only your own, and not strangers with you. Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice with the wife of your youth. Like the loving deer and pleasant doe, let her breasts satisfy you at all times, and be ravished always with her love. And why will you, my son, be ravished with a strange woman, and embrace the bosom of a stranger? For the ways of man are before the eyes of Jehovah, and He watches all his paths. (Proverbs 5:15-21)
• As a lily among thorns, so is my love among the daughters. (Song of Songs 2:2 ASV)
• As the apple tree among the trees of the wood, so is my beloved among the sons. I sat down under his shadow with great delight, and his fruit was sweet to my taste. He brought me to the banqueting house, and his banner over me was love.” (Song of Songs 2:3)
• Awake, O north wind; and come, thou south; blow upon my garden, that the spices thereof may flow out. Let my beloved come into his garden, and eat his pleasant fruits.” (Song of Songs 4:16)
• How fair and how pleasant art thou, O love, for delights! This thy stature is like to a palm tree, and thy breasts to clusters of grapes. I said, I will go up to the palm tree, I will take hold of the boughs thereof: now also thy breasts shall be as clusters of the vine, and the smell of thy nose like apples” (Song of Songs 7:6-8) Note: Here we have a reference to the husband engaging his wife in sexual intimacy. Climbing up a palm tree is a practice still done today to help pollinate the Date Palms. They climb the tree and take hold of the branches and spread them apart to get to the female part of the tree. So, this is a clear picture of a man going into his wife. (Click here to see video on Date Tree Pollination)

So, I hope and pray that this article would be a help in your marriage relationship. For we must put away any doctrines and teachings that make sex look dirty or even evil. But that being said, we must also realize that marriage only pertains to this present life. Therefore, the bible also says that even though we can freely marry and engage in this relationship, we shouldn’t let it be the main focus of our lives (1 Corinthians 7:29-31) For there is a world of people out there who desperately needs to hear the message of the gospel. So, let’s enjoy our marriage while making the gospel our main aim above all. Amen.

“Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice with the wife of your youth. As a loving deer and a graceful doe, Let her breasts satisfy you at all times; and always be enraptured with her love." (Proverbs 5:18-19 NKJV)

God bless you as you seek to do his will, Amen.

Below is some helpful information concerning sexual intimacy. These are articles and medical studies that show not only the benefits for both the man and the woman, but for any future children (including the one in the womb) as well:

• Mood Enhancer 
• Sex for older couples
• How to conceive when dealing with Erectile dysfunction
• Women receive and retain male DNA through sex - Article 1
• Women receive and retain male DNA through sex - Article 2
• Women receive and retain male DNA through sex - Video
• Sex for a safer pregnancy - Article 1
• Sex for a safer pregnancy - Article 2
• Ejaculation Frequency for a healthy prostate
• Science behind Ejaculation Frequency 
• Frequency - Is it actually better?
• Benefits of Circumcision - Article 1
• Benefits of Circumcision - Article 2
• Is Masturbation a Sin?
• Is Masturbation a Sin? - video
• Use It or Lose It

Below are some other Christian websites and articles on sex and marital intimacy:

• theforgivenwife.com
• daveandashley.com
• Sex in Marriage
• Intimacy in Marriage
• Divorce & Remarriage
• Sex in Marriage
• Intimacy in Marriage

(Note: Below are versions used other than then the King James Version)

• ESV = The Holy Bible, English Standard Version copyright © 2001, 2007, 2011, 2016 by Crossway Books and Bibles, a Publishing Ministry of Good News Publishers. Used by permission. All rights reserved.
• NKJV = New King James Version, © 1982 by Thomas Nelson, Inc. All rights reserved. Used by permission.
• NASB20 = New American Standard Bible 2020 Copyright (c) 1960, 1962, 1963, 1968, 1971, 1972, 1973, 1975, 1977, 1995, 2020 by The Lockman Foundation, La Habra, Calif. All rights reserved.
• ASV = Thomas Nelson & Sons first published the American Standard Version in 1901. This translation of the Bible is in the public domain.

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